I keep forgetting this is an mmo. I have no guilds, any I try to join either are not talkative enough or just do not mesh well. I have no friends, none, online or off. I wander through WoW doing stuff, leveling, etc, and hardly ever interact that much with others cause they never want to interact either. I am somewhat directionless right now. I don’t like it, don’t dislike it, am neutral. I do want to do things with others but from my experience such things never work. I don’t make friends or meaningful progress. Should I try to raid or do mythics or… something. I should have more M in my MMO.
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When you’re the new kid in a guild, people won’t immediately chat a lot to you. Like all relationships, it takes time.
Server and faction choices can affect the type of people you will meet. Your post is kind of a loose end where you haven’t mentioned what areas you specifically want to be focusing on, and what kind of community you want.
Do you want friends or a more businesslike team? What kind of people would you want to hang around?
I have been playing solo for so long that I don’t even notice any more.
I do enjoy when my kids plays though. It is funny to listen to them get overly excited over things.
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Not just when I am new, even when I have been in guilds for some time nobody talks, nobody wants to do anything. Mostly I just want casual friends, ones who I could goof around with and just play alongside. I have never found one person. Everyone is either real professional, or they have no time, cause they all have lives which I don’t.
Casual and friendly? So long as you don’t mind losing a load of pvp, I’d say go dalaran alliance.
I can’t name a guild for you, but there are some good ones there. Also this isn’t guild recruitment so there’s that. I seem to keep going back to that server and side, it’s where I feel most at home.
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I already have characters on 2 servers, all leveled and geared. I can’t move servers or start over again so I am stuck on those 2. I think this is my fault.
Have you tried browsing the communities?
Then work with what you’ve got. I don’t even know how many servers I’ve tried, leveled to max on, then rerolled somewhere new.
I like leveling though, yeah I’m a bit weird. But often I have to delete a toon to make room for my next reroll (next big adventure).
Yes. I’ve looked around. I think at this point the problem is myself. Could be that I just do not fit with everyone else. Wish I could get rid of the human instinct for socialization, that would be handy.
Try playing on a RP realm.
Never dead. Even at 4 in the morning on a Monday you’ll find large groups of people walking about.
RP realms have also consistently been the highest populated realms.
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You’re kind of reminding me of myself here. I always complain I don’t have anyone to play WoW with but then as soon as someone asks me to come do something I’m like, “hmm, nah, maybe next time” ![:woman_facepalming:](https://d38bqls1q93fod.cloudfront.net/en/wow/images/emoji/twitter/woman_facepalming.png?v=6" ":woman_facepalming:")
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Come play at Sargeras Alliance. I am thinking of making a Mythic+ for the casuals guild. It will be a guild for the casuals at all levels but filled with Level 120s wanting to do mythic+ anytime they want with the guildies. If enough people join us then we can Guild + pug the first Heroic 6 bosses in BOD. They are quite easy. No Discord required. Send me a mail if you are interested and I will guild invite you. I am putting all my alts in that guild.
The 2 realms I am on are actually RP realms, wyrmrest accord and emerald dream. Also, if someone asked me to come do something with them for fun I would. But nobody asks.
I have been told before that I am a downer and nobody likes downers. I might just be out of luck.
I can certainly relate. But the good news it does get easier. I have gone without any meaningful human contact for years. No friends, no romantic partner, no dates, and minimal contact with family.
I had an epiphany that the bulk of the human race (IRL) are worthless. Those that are not have no interest in getting to know me. So I stopped trying. The biggest advantage is I no longer feel obligated to schedule my free time around other people. I don’t have to worry about people wanting to spend time with me or call me when I’m doing my own thing.
Relying on other people for anything, especially your own sense of worth or happiness, is a recipe for disaster. Other people will only let you down or abandon you. I’m not falling into that trap again.
It’s how WOW has been twisted over the years… Which is one of the primary flaws with the current game.
I do somewhat feel that way about humanity. Not all, but some. The problem is that I get sort of… mental/emotional pain from having no meaningful social connection. It drives me to seek it and it irritates me. If I could I would remove it. It makes me feel weak and pathetic sometimes, and like a failure due to my lack of ability to alleviate the problem.
Premade Group Finder killed guilds. CRZ and sharding killed server identity. I’m not surprised you feel alone.
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WoW (devs and players alike) got confused somewhere along the way and started equating grouping and socializing.
I don’t believe premade group finder killed guilds. If people are not enjoying the game, for whatever reason, they are not going to log in. That is what is killing guilds, lack of enjoyment. Premade group finder just makes it easier for people to do the content they enjoy.
If anything Blizzard needs to take a look at their guild finder and even guild webpages on here. Having the ability to search for guilds by active members, type of content, server and maybe keywords would help. On the other end of things guild masters would have to fill out a Guild page, like setting up a group in group finder, that includes all important information about their guild.
After that Blizzard could bring back incentives for people being in guilds. It would be interesting to have a type of guild currency that you get by doing guild related content.
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i don’t think it has anything to do with wow. in 2004 when wow was launched there really wasn’t social media beyond myspace and AIM. a lot of the social factor of vanilla was due to the fact that we were all new to this thing called the internet and wow was a place to meet and play with new people.
today the ‘meet people from around the world’ factor has worn out and people are getting more picky with their relationships, especially with the way social media puts people in circles of agreement. the result is people have no interest in just meeting and getting to know a random stranger, they have a bunch of random strangers already.
i don’t think wow did anything particularly wrong per se, just that the world and society changed around it.
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