I’m an introvert and didn’t realize things were so complex for some. My ‘solution’ has been to be very picky about whom to add to bnet. But maybe it’s different if you are very ‘social’ in game with the PvE stuff.
I don’t get it either. If there’s someone on your bnet you don’t want to talk to, remove them. If you’re too scared to do it when they’re online, do it in the wee hours of the morning.
But whatevs. Different strokes for different folks and all that. I only keep people on my bnet that I really like and wouldn’t care if they were offline for a few years.
I don’t personally usually dip under the radar for extended periods, I also have just a small circle of people that I keep in close touch with, a lot of it through the love language of sharing around images and memes from the internet like a crow dropping off shiny buttons for you. It’s been a lot better since I went fully remote at my job and I don’t get as burned out by needing to be social to people face to face for extended periods. A long period of time like a year to me would speak to something much more significant going down in their friend’s life and/or mental health that caused them to need to go out of touch for a while.
Probably they could’ve found out what it was if they didn’t immediately make it all about them and their hurt feelings.
I’ll tell you why.
Because you do a great run with someone and they seem cool and you become BTag buddies. But once you accept…and if they know you are a healer main…well thats when they pester you to death.
You see, some people will whisper you non-stop because they want you to drop whatever you are doing (always) and go heal them for whatever banal, dumb, and/or idiotic thing/achievement/pet/mount/exploratory excursion that you could care less about, let alone never do on your own.
Now some people are too nice to say “no” to that, so its just easier to go and stay in offline mode.
Is that being anti-social or does that sound like someone who values their time?
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i been on offline mode for years lol. even on discord. ill talk to you when i feel like it is why i do it lol
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I forgot all about bnet friends. Because of this thread I got curious and looked. I had about 5 people on there since 2017 & a bit later that haven’t been ingame for about a month, some a lot longer so I just let them go.
I never talked with them anyway except here on the forums and can’t recall why I added them.
Kinda dumb now that I think about it but it is what it is. meh.
You had the answer all along!
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Sounds like a horrible answer, just remove those people. Or does having people on a friend list that you don’t utilize make you feel good?
No, the opposite. But removing them feels worse. I want to be left alone but I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings either.
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If you don’t talk to someone then they probably won’t notice that you’re gone.
Ok. That sounds like an ideal outcome.
I’ve been removed by people who think I should be there to entertain them. Not my problem.
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This is so spot on I can’t even, I felt it in my soul. I’m literally on the phone all day, 8 hours a day, 40 days a week talking, having to socialize. Sometimes my friends will be like “hey get in discord and let’s do stuff” right after work, when I’ve been on the phone all day/week and my response 90 percent of the time is “yeah no I’ll pass, I just had people in my ear for 8 hours, I don’t want to put headphones on and listen to y’all”. Thanks for reminding me offline mode exists I’ll be doing that the next time I log on, lol.
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I mean, TBH it isn’t that hard to go: “Sorry guys, just wanna solo for a bit!”
And leave it at that.
Yeesh you all make it sound like saying that is going to have people turn up to your house to make sure you didn’t turn into a block of cheese or something.
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Not everyone necessarily wants to prune their list. I have contacts on my messengers that I haven’t spoken to in a decade or more. Unless I’ve had a particularly bad experience with someone though, the likelihood that I actively remove someone from my list is incredibly low.
Hopping on Offline status is fine if you don’t necessarily feel like socializing at the moment. Even among some of my friends there’s a level of energy I need to have before I’m ready to fully engage with them. If I don’t have it, I stay Offline to them so there isn’t an awkward conversation.
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I mean why even deal with it when you can just click a button. It’s internet friends / acquaintances … not a first date. There are also a good chunk of the gaming population who probably don’t need anymore trauma anyways… as someone who goes back and forth playing with close friends on discord and playing solo… i pretty much prefer the solo experience at this point. I can get stuff done and focus way more. Whenever someone irl like work or something asks to add me on bnet i pretty much know off the bat im prolly not gonna play with them its annoying they even ask (one time a boss asked to be added i was so annoyed)
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Its because I live in great fear that I will receive a whisper one day from someone that says "hey bro, wanna go kill some more Moonstalker Runts?
And I will see the name and think “who the heck is that? And what’s a moonstalker runt?”
Offline mode helps avoid that.
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i live in fear some draenei will whisper me and ask me to do a dungeon with them.
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Whats a draenei? Kinda rings a bell…
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a horrible horrible creature.
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