Just told my s/o I play wow

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They must be relieved to find out that you weren’t cheating despite their suspicion, sure.

However, at the same time, they seem like they aren’t all that pleased to find out that you are someone who plays video games for hours on end.

I agree with this.

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Actually, it is more healthy that you DO this (in a relationship.)

Too many people are really codependent, when it is often hard to keep that up if the relationship goes for the long term (or, shudder, Marriage.)

So having your own stuff you do, is actually better. The only time it isn’t is if you do it ALL the time, such as when the other person wants to go out “sometimes.”

My guess is this is what the OP is talking about, if the person thought it was “an affair.” The behavior was probably very similar.

  • The person is busy on those nights, at those times, while not working (they are raiding, or grouping with friends, on a schedule.)

  • The person is secretive about what they are doing (embarrassed/other about telling the other party about the video game they “have to” go play.)

I would not call it an “addiction”, but one should probably play more casually or just not date.

The reason why the S/O brought up “addiction”, was that an addiction is something you “hide.” An example would be how the person asks if you are free on a night and you would probably not say, “Oh no, that is the night that I go over to a same sex friend’s and we do illicit drugs”; You’d keep that a secret.

Next time, since this is probably over, you should find someone who also has scheduled hobbies. You should also let them know that the ones you have won’t necessarily be on the same dates as theirs.

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if your starting a relationship hiding something thats bad on you and all your future relations if it doesnt change

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Lol they trying to cover up the sex of their s/o. Not sure why. Can only guess but i ain’t gonna.

Basically what i said but not as basic as what i said lol

Not necessarily, but ok.

No they never get away with it. Either your “main piece” knows and don’t care cause they doing it too, or they don’t care and going to love you anyway. Or they suspect and yet cannot prove it.

Either way they never get away with it.

You right.

Uh

:man_shrugging:

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At least a gamer isn’t sitting passively in front of a box all zombie like. Playing a game like Wow has much interaction, and actually allows you to meet people from around the world.

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I get being squeamish about telling an s/o about wow. People can be weird about their partner’s hobbies.

When I was in college, I dated a guy who tried to force me to quit playing WoW because it wasn’t “ladylike.” I dumped him and kept playing WoW.

I’m a tauren, not a lady. :nerd_face: :rofl:

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reminds me…my wife played before me, and got me into wow. She played horde exclusively…and I was the wrench that wanted to play alliance…

She doesn’t let me forget it

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I see thou dost employ the pronouns “you, your, yours” in a singular sense. If this usage has become familiar to thee, then I have confidence in thine ability to likewise adjust to the notion that “they, them, their, theirs” in the singular sense as well.

You may be unaware that, in origin, “you, your, yours” was strictly plural, and/or respectful, address. “They, them, their” is also respectful address. The OP does not reveal their own gender, or that of their partner, because it is not relevant to the discussion. Let them.

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On our first date my now wife asked what I liked to do for fun.

Amonst the list was play video games. Lots of video games. She was cool with that.

Later on, after we moved in together, she told me she could complain I play so much or i could teach her to play. So I taught her to play.

She subs off and on now. But if you feel. You need to hide the fact you play, that is not a good omen.

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You would hate my setup then, its the most disgusting of all…
Dual monitors, 43" for Wow, 29" for streaming:
Subbed to Netflix, [Crave (<-hbo, stars, showcase)] Amazon Prime.
Game on one stream on the other.

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I’d have to question how significant that other is.

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It’s better than other vices.

WoW is a hobby, not a drug. People can be addicted to WoW, but they are rare cases and actually should seek professional help. Most people just enjoy it as a hobby.

Let this be a lesson learned: Never hide who you are. Be all that you are. Unless it involves harming others. Then don’t.

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I’m assuming your an adult, why did you hide the fact you play wow in the first place.

It’s not like there is anything wrong with it.

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If I ever get a relationship… I think I’ll have to get a gamer wife too, and hopefully she plays WoW too.
Not the ‘tolerate’ kind, but one that genuinely enjoys what it brings.

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Actually met my S/O on a WoW FB fan page in 2016.
We started talking every night over FB messenger (since we lived almost 900 miles apart), and last year I moved to her town to be with her.

9 days from now she becomes my wife <3

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One really should always be honest with one’s S.O.
It’s only fair.

I was cheating on my husband, and he wanted to know what I was doing every evening, and warned me he would not believe me, whatever I said.
Not wanting to mislead him, I explained I was spending all my evenings oomphing with a gorgeous young handsome guy. He refused to believe any guy wanted me, and insisted I must be visiting equally lonely, ugly old girlfriends.

My new husband, when we’re not “otherwise occupied,” makes a terrific partner to play Warcraft with.

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I couldn’t hide it if I wanted to. Have a t-shirt with my old main on it from the cata launch party I went to. Have the movie. Have every brady guide… open world and dungeons. Have a murloc battle cry ringtone*.

*Real easy to find the wow players in public when it goes off and you see 4 people looking around and one says “who pulled?”.

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my wife steals my fallout themed t-shirts a lot (Bethesda store sells these cheap sometimes lol).

She doesn’t get why some people say cool t-shirt when she does this. She also is amazed at how many fallout playing geeks are out there to know what the shirts are about.

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Ouch. :rofl:

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I’m not trolling.
This is all true.
Went to dinner with them lastnight and they wanted to know if I was telling the truth.
Showed them my raider io link and character page.
They seemed fine with me playing the game and wished I had told them earlier. I still believe the jury is out on this one when I need some “alone time” to play.