Pugging is awful to ppl with a bad mindset, pugs think every key should be successful so anything short of gaining io for a pug is unacceptable. Those same people don’t realize that teams constantly brick keys and spam keys that don’t give them io. The people complaining about needing friends probably aren’t even ready to put in the effort being a team takes.
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The funny thing about those toxic people you mention. They are in guilds themselves. So that’s not it.
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I have extreme social anxiety and I’m unable to interact, especially on stuff like Discord.
But I really wish I could interact more, since I feel very lonely.
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Truthfully I think the matter is very simple.
If people don’t want to sweat, which is the grand majority of GD, don’t do m+.
People fail to understand m+ is a rated format. There’s a timer, and the mode is specifically designed to zoom zoom.
People can’t just accept the reality that they don’t want to zoom zoom and therefore shouldn’t run m+.
Cause people want their cake and to eat it too.
Cause people are children
Bro an RP server is what you’re looking for. Not everything there is nsfw, those ppl genuinely enjoy grouping up to do dragon racing. It’s like another planet.
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Couldn’t agree more, well said.
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Honestly solid advice all round.
There are a few more tips that I’ve generally found tried n true that go along with it.
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Spend time on Mastery of your class, potentially in multiple roles. I think this tends to be a big weakness I’ve seen while making/joining raid/dungeon/delves. I’ve no doubt you have all met people who both complain but not work on getting better.
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Be flexible to not DPS. I have been healing lately and while I love the output, omg it is kinda hard! Yet somehow I’ve actually done it decently enough to time some +4s etc.
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Be open to new experiences with strangers. I think a big issue tends to be people’s ’self anxiety’. Yes maybe I will absolutely bomb healing this +4 and I’ll get kicked. But maybe I will learn something!
Since getting over those other parts I’ve found myself doing pretty decently with others.
All good points you made. I would argue this one specific statement will get you more “friends” than the others though.
That’s what I’m going for. If I can get to a point where people are like yea, he’s good on that DH let’s get him in here. Got a way to go before I’m at a level of mastery but most of my gametime goes into one class trying to get cracked at it.
Simple flour is.
its so weird how the forums are so full of people who play the game but hate playing with other people and will literally get mad at you for even suggesting joining a guild lol
Guildies come when you have keys, or when they need you for raid, thats about it… but still same toxic behavior, just cuz they are in your guild, it dosent change how community is
I guess without specifically pointing anyone out sometimes we talk and help each other out with guild challenges in discord.
There is just a couple of people who seem to perpetually put fault on their class/life circumstances. So I guess that point was coming from a personal grievance and maybe doesn’t hold the same weight as others.
*huge commitment
“hey can i join your guild?”
“sure!”
"thanks! 
"
wow what a commitment
So being nice to people is hard? Something you picked up as a child?
Doomsayer, just join a guild already.
Oh you just ignore everything after the first sentence. Nice reading skills you have there.
idk man i joined a guild and then started asking people to go to keys and like a few weeks later im in one of these “cliques” youre talking about. You just need to be slightly outgoing and talk to people.
also you can just like leave a guild theres no commitment lol
I get it, I don’t like talking either. Never done a discord nor have I or will I do voice chat. I get it’s almost a requirement for something’s so you just gotta accept some limitations if that’s the case. But hey your here in the forums, ain’t that much different
I don’t join groups that want to discord or voice chat. When told there’s a discord available I just say I prefer in game chat and haven’t had an issue yet. In part to social anxiety and in part to not wanting to commit that hard to wear a headset when I may have to get up and leave the game for whatever reason. I think so along as you say a hey what’s up or ask simple questions if needed not much social interaction is a requirement. For most things.
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Are those actually hard to get into though? I have a ratty monk alt at 586 ilvl and was able to join normal pug raids fairly easily. I have no doubt I could also get into a m0. Are we talking instant invites to group content?
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They arent hard to get into at all. idk what the heck theyre talking about lol
My headset is busted on one side so I just never wear it, just join the calls muted. They only want you in discord most likely so you can hear the “raid leader” calling things out. Even when I’m asked something while I’m in discord I respond in raid chat. I hate getting on the mic.