I think I can be a bit off kilter, and I deal with it in my own way. Typical guy stuff, I guess. “I can manage on my own, if I can’t help me, no one can” sort of thing.
I feel a little bad when people complain about their mental health. What am I supposed to do about it? Maybe listening is a temporary relief but it doesn’t solve the problem. I try to be nice and listen.
I just tell them to stop having bad thoughts. Change their diet. Avoid drama and stress. Probably the wrong things to say, but it’s what I do.
Sometimes a walk and a glass of water instead of soda in bed can make your body feel better - but saying that can get you blow back.
You can do the minimum, but it’s not your role to help them. Giving them the idea of going through other resources is probably your best bet.
You’re doing a good job listening, sometimes that’s all it takes.
I have an uncle who succumbed to mental health issues before I was born. He selected Mothers Day to… carry out his end. He had recently turned 18.
To this day, near 40 years later, no one from that side talks about him or why he did it or anything. I have only seen one picture of him, a small blurry wallet sized picture I found buried in paperwork. They didn’t even keep pictures of him around.
So when people in my life talk about suicide… it makes me think of this shadow that was around my family before I was even born, and it freaks me out. But I try to maintain and listen and stay strong, because if someone is talking about it, they must be feeling worse than me.
Being concerned for the mental health of others can take a toll on your mental health, and that should be considered.
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Are you talking about how to make a comment about a post but not read it making your comment irrelevant? You also need to read up on toxic masculinity and the fact that it hurts men. The ideas behind it are things that are pushed onto boys and young men by society at large.
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the lens you’re putting forth to view reality through, is what my post was in reference to.
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The story of this game is so bad that I had to give it up for my mental health, I have less rage now, but let’s not discuss about BfA, Shadowlands and Sylvanas story, pls.
Well said. I’ve been playing WOW for 16 years and have also come across many people in the game who just needed to tell someone their story. My Mom raised me to be kind to everyone and I take that seriously, even in the game. Yes this is a “game” but we need to never forget that there’s a real person behind that other character.
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The story wasn’t the problem it was the viewer that interrupted it. They merely give a story it was up to us to decide the value of it. I looked at it differently from another level than someone else’s only from my experience,you do the same in that regard.
People tend to view reality through the lens of their own personal experience. That is their truth, they look for information to further validate and uphold it. Reality is far murkier, not a place of clear black/ white. To be able to look past personal experience and acknowledge the overall general life experience. That may validate your person truth, it may not.
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Actually this isn’t any kind of ‘celebration.’ It’s hopefully making those that don’t suffer aware so people don’t die or feel so alone. We hide it. That’s not healthy.
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If it helps anyone understand feel free to ask me about life with mental health issues. I can offer my livid perspective on American healthcare.
It’s tough, no doubt. I have been my own therapist for a while now. I can’t afford a good therapist in the area, and all of them do not accept medicaid as a primary, which we make just above the line to qualify for it anyways. The counselors around here just want you to find God… which religiosity and childhood Baptist/Pentecostal brainwashing is a big part of my issue.
I’ve been to the mental ward three times, where they basically make you so uncomfortable while just babysitting you. Then they send you out with a generic blanket diagnosis to state run conveyor belts of Rx.
It sucks to go to the ER for some physical issue (because, ya know, can’t afford a Dr…), only for them to ask you if you’re gonna hurt yourself or others and that they don’t give out drugs, even though I never asked. You get stigmatized and pigeon holed into just what’s on your file. So, now because I tried to get help, I’m just a crazy drug addict.
Luckily, I have a good support system. I have people that at least try to understand when I go through my dark moments. It helps immensely, but the work is ultimately up to me.
If you are struggling, just know you are not alone. It’s a battlefield. Just keep getting back up and do the best you can.
Remember, you are not your illness.
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Or my case. Where they put people in the same ward as some extreme cases that need a lot of attention.
It was terrifying and not the least bit helpful. The dayshift nurses were also very rude. ( shout out to the much chiller / nicer night shift nurses )
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When has like half of General Discussion have anything to do with WoW
If someone is having problems and they made a thread along the lines of “I’m having a rough time guys. Help me out.”, I get it and I’ll offer my positivity. This whole “HaY gUyZ iT’S cRAzY pEoPLe SufFeR dAY!” stuff has to stop. There’s a day for everything. As a person who’s struggled with mental issues and addiction for most of my life, I don’t need a day or some rando making a banner for it. It doesn’t help anyone and it’s border line facetious.
Meh. Got issues too. Months like this at least let me see folks do little charity things. Its nice. And I think talking with this stuff helps.
I guess it comes off as patronizing to me. I don’t like it. Especially if it comes from someone who has no idea what people are going through. The normies, governments, and corporations of the world virtue signaling to society that they “care”. I’d personally rather not be reminded of it.
I see it this way. The risk of being stared at by some patronizing group is at least better than completely being ignored.
Yes there’s cringey groups but there’s good folks too.
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Agree to disagree I suppose. I’d rather be ignored. Nothing worse than people bringing attention to something in my stay. It’s like being the guy who can’t eat a certain thing and you have that friend who always has to announce it at a gathering to make sure your dietary needs are met by the host. Dude, shut up, I’ll take care of myself. I want to be treated as if I’m completely standard issued machinery.
I guess I just don’t like attention of any sort.