The only reason they even know he wants to bounce off to a group is because the game forcibly reveals this. It’s up there with the addon that announces people’s loot to users so they know who to hassle to try to get drops when they don’t get what they want. Personal actions and activities don’t need a crowd/audience and there are those of us who would rather avoid the awkward situation entirely by having things not over-shared.
We used to be able to do stuff without everyone knowing or at least not knowing until we got to where we were going. Having that setting back would be nice. Forcing social interaction when one would prefer not to have it [and also to avoid drama] isn’t selfish or isolating. Trying to force players together because we’ve lost so much due to convenience and tech advances isn’t a wondrous thing and it turns many people off.
Oh, and this:
I run my own guild and I have a batch of newer people who I have told they aren’t coming to higher content runs until their gear and experience justifies them and that while me and the more geared and experienced core will helps as our time/schedule allows, a lot of the work is going to fall to them to prioritize and do. It wouldn’t be fair to those of us who have been putting in the effort to slowly and surely rank up keys and get better to not only have to run lower content on our mains and it isn’t helping us long term when their inexperience kills our key.
If you brought new/inexperienced players into the guild to be participating members in guild activities then it is actually rewarding the guild as a whole to take the time to step down a few steps and do lower content with them so they can learn/gear. Not really what the OP was talking about - it’s not his responsibility to run with people he doesn’t want to or even feels uncomfortable around. It is your responsibility as a GM to take care of the people you bring into the fold.
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Or be an adult and answer the OP question. Pretty sure they didnt ask for your opinion.
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I did not say he was obligated to bring the people to his runs. I said he should have the decency, maturity, and to show them respect by not trying to be sneaky and hide his actions and if they ask to come along to tell them no and why.
It happens all the time in guilds I been in and even in my own. Someone asks for help with a run and people either do or don’t help and usually because they also want something out of the run. People are off doing their own content and nobody is pestering them to come along or even throwing a fit. Find a different or better guild if you honestly think the better course of action is hiding your activities and gear from them. Either you are a super selfish and bad apple anyway or you found a guild of immature babies…either way it clearly isn’t a good fit.
The long and short of it, no, there isn’t an option to turn it off. The only way to do anything like that would be to turn your settings in launcher to show offline.
The other way around it is to just let folks know that you’ll be doing some content o your own and if there is room for anyone else you’ll let folks know.
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I don’t blame OP. I don’t even ask if people in my guild want to run anything. All the decent, core players only run things together then you post a 15 key or something and you get some social pleb begging for a carry.
I don’t need the awkward ‘nah you suck sorry man’ exchange. Easier to group out of LFG. I’ve yet, in 13 years, to find an all -inclusive guild that carries everyone to high content until they learn it and can replicate situation that people on the forums always blather on about.
Unfortunately there is no way to turn off that feature.
I love how instead of just answering OP’s question half this thread immediately starts hurling insults at him.
Ya’ll are so lame lmao.
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have you tried appearing offline? not sure if it works with guildies, but worth a shot.
I assume it would, since even your own friends on your friends list have no idea if you’re online or what you’re doing and don’t get a notification whenever you make or join a group.
If you appear offline your guild can still see you online if they check the guild specifically, I’m not sure if it blocks the pop-up for groups or not.
I love how many people here are just like “Do something that you don’t want to do, because I think it’s the right thing to do and is easy for me.”
Just because you have the ability to have uncomfortable and honest conversations with people doesn’t mean everyone else does. Many people struggle to have even simple and carefree conversations with other people, let alone ones where you know that the other person may be hurt. If everyone could easily do this, then there wouldn’t be an entire industry devoted to training people how to have difficult conversations.
Then you assume the other person is going to be just as easy going as you are. They’ll hear you tell them no and accept the rationale and logic behind your statement (regardless of its accuracy) and graciously concede. No, more than likely you start a huge fight. Guilds crumble all the time because of petty bs like this.
So the OP isn’t a “coward” and telling them to forcibly act against their personality without giving them the tools to do so shows a lack of
As to the OP, no there isn’t really a way to stop it other than to go to your launcher and select appear offline. This will make it so no one can see you on your friends list though, so be aware.
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Or be an adult and tell them why you aren’t comfortable letting them in your keystone beyond their experience level.
I’ll fix:
Or be an adult and lie. Just say group is full and you’re just waiting on some cousin or wathever… And promise you’ll take them in the next one (you’ll lie again).
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