I think they prey on desires more than brain-washing magic.
Sirens use victims as tools. Like how a bad boss would treat an intern.
Succubi tend to do… other things… with their victims in most fantasy and mythology.
Same thing you’d say to a guy?
My wife compliments men and women alike on things like amazing nail polish and hair. She made some young drive-thru workers day when she noticed his nails one time. His face lit up like he just won the lottery.