I’ll try. I’ll just be “normal” (whatever that means). Casual at least. Not keep blowing it up. It just becomes such a big deal in my head. I’m sure I’m “making a mountain out of a mole-hill” as they say.
I think people might think I’m doing that to them? I do n eed to stop trying to “fix it” I have a huge issue of trying to “fix” things nad makign them worse.
I should never be a mechanic heh.
YES! And I think I overcompensate and come off weird or extra.
I try to avoid people who give me the bad vibes™
Though it’s like I’m giving others the bad vibes™ and that’s depressing.
You’re a good spice!
I have friends but they don’t always get it either but I can def try. I try to explain things but they often say the same thing everyone else here is saying.
Ah. Seemed out of left field, kinda what happened to me though when Iw as accused as a sockpuppet. But idk your history with them.
yeah it freaks me out some because she had no one before…and If i werent here I dont know what would happen. She doesnt reallly have any family or friends who get it or would put in the effort for her.
seems youre same as her on that one too. lol…
I charge right into new acquaintences while shes very reserved.
I actually need to start letting her take the lead on that one.
Twice now shes wanted to not get involved with people who Ive dived right in with…and then we had to get the police involved to get them to back off. lol.
I guess Im not as watchful in that regard because I can handle myself regardless of whether it works out or goes south…while she’s more careful about getting involved in the first place
oh yeah…she has had those autistic meltdowns a few times over the years.
I just help her try to get thru it.
EArly on I thought she was literallly trying to start arguments, but now I realize it was the autism.
Don’t worry about being normal. I’m not normal, either.
Just try to sit back and be willing to move forward. If you let this sort of thing fester in your mind, you’ll let it consume you and paint how you interact with people. So let it go.
I don’t know if you’re who I suspect you to be (aside from Akunda) but my advice would be the same to anyone. It isn’t worth the stress on you, and it only makes things worse anyway.
ah…I see youve already met our local clown show then. lol.
Id use that ignore option liberally. They arent worth your time and energy…trust me
yeah, autistics really need someone willing to put in the effort to understand them and their situation. RElationships can be a little more complicated based on my experience, especially if the other person doesnt know about the autism or is unwilling to help educate themselves about it.
lol…yeah, most people think the wife doesnt like them because she wont engage and seems ‘snobby’ to some.
Shes really just unsure of herself most of the time. She warms up after a few visits with most.
There is a pack of miserables on this forum.
you’ll do well to figure them out and ignore them entirely.
Uhm I’m Maevra, and Terraion. I can’t think if I’ve really posted ont he forums as anyone else. I’ve posted ont hem more this expansion cuz Iw as maining them. Uhm maybe my DK Xaku? I think i’ve posted on them a few times. But I am trying to alt swap less.
But yeah I appreciate it, thank you.
I am on disability. I think I said it earlier in the thread.
What’s preventing me is both mental and physical limitations that prevent me from working. I have done some volenteer work however.
I don’t think it’s a “clown show” I mean maybe they are bad faith? trolling me? But I didn’t feel like that was going on. I understand there are folks who troll the community who act nice in bad faith as a “Gatcha” I’ve witnessed it. Which is partof why I had my meltdown because I fully understand and empathized with them while it also didn’t mesh with me knowing I’m not that kinda person so it ended up in this awful feedback oop.
Yeah it’s rough out there.
I’m either extremely reserved or like extremely vocal. Once I’m comfortable with you I’ll be infodumping and being super happy positive/cheeery around you,. (As much as body and mind allows). But before I am very reserved probably will avoid looking at you as much as possible and will only talk to you if needed.
Though I am getting a bit better as I get older at forcing myself to talk to strangers. Also I have an easier time on online spaces then irl.
Maybe. I think everyone is just trying to carve ou ta good experience. I try not to think negatively of people unless they’ve oproven they only wish harm
Idk if it’s 80% but there is a majority of autistic people who can’t work.
