I agree, if op was with the same guild for a while. However if there has been guild hopping or what not, the process starts over.
Because not everything connects all the time for some people. What may be logical to us may not be so easy to comprehend to someone with such a disability.
Why on earth would you expect anyone in any facet of life to just be okay with rudeness and condescension without being first warned that this is something out of your control due to a mental instability?
/nods
I’m just trying to gather information to try to figure out how leaders of guilds think and such… And how I can try to better myself in regards to joining guilds…
I just hate feeling like the odd one out… I want progression be it RP, PvE or PvP, honestly I just want to feel like I am at home and not alone…
I just don’t want this thread to degenerate into arguments…
I am not trying to guild hop, I am trying to find a home for my character in any aspect of the game at this point… I just keep getting belittled and declined…
This is why I came here to get opinions, be it blunt and harsh. I do warn them via OOC section which states the following.
I have mental health issues, go easy on me…
LF IC Guild
All themes welcome.
I don’t know if they don’t, or won’t ask about it, but I am going to start explaining from here on out… I guess…
I HAVE to let people know, in real life, and sometimes in game that I’m blunt, hold no punches, and tend to have word vomit because I too have mental issues (PTSD, BPD, and a few more). I can (and have) gone from super cool, to… not so much because something triggered me, and often times, I don’t even know what it was.
I don’t know, if in your instance, you can maybe feel an episode coming, and possibly catch yourself before you lose it. It’s taken me years to be able to even somewhat be able to maintain a certain sense of decorum, even then it’s sketchy at best. The only place I can manage to keep my cool is at work (which oddly enough is my biggest stressor lol).
Best of luck to you OP. You’re not alone, just know that.
Coming from the perspective of someone who has pretty much never not been a GM or in a top officer role of large community style guilds during my time playing this game, your situation would put many GM’s and officer teams in a tough position.
I’ve dealt with guild members who have had anger issues in the past and no matter how many times they are given another chance, it just seems to be a matter of time before another altercation occurs.
When that happens it’s my job to assess the situation and decide what’s best for the guild as a whole, and more often than not, that means removing the one person that’s causing the issue rather than risk losing multiple people who are fed up with being attacked.
I can’t really give you advice on what you should do here, but as others have mentioned, having a 1 on 1 with the GM or recruitment officer before joining would be a good start. I just wanted to share what my thought process would be were the situation to happen in my guilds so you have some insight on the other side.
Best of luck to you OP, I’m sure there’s a home out there for you somewhere, even if you have to end up making the next best up and coming “IC, PvE, and maybe some PvP” guild on the realm yourself! 
I generally can’t until I am half way into it… which sucks… Perhaps I need to try to be more aware… What signs do you generally go through and how do you catch it normally?
I really appriciate this. You have no idea. I just want to try to better myself and get into a guild, any guild… I don’t mean or try to be a ar se but… I can’t control it sometimes…
fack i’m crying… I never thought I would get such advice from general discussion.
Almost a bubbling, my head will feel a little heavy and my vision will kind of blur a little bit. It’s super hard to explain, but physically I can feel it kind of rising up. If I don’t catch it in time, it’s game over, no stopping the… not so nice. If I do catch it, I can take a deep breath, walk away from whatever it is, or sometimes just flat out stop what I’m doing till I cool off a little bit.
It’s not easy, and like I said. Years of working on myself to even get to that point. Meds do help, but you also have to be self aware like you said
This isnt a bad idea… just let people know its going to get rude/insulting and mean sometimes. They can bring some baggage too. If everyone knows it beforehand you may get a lot of roundhouses and slaps in the face in /gu but everyone will understand at the end of the day and itll be all rainbows and lollipops until the next roundhouses are thrown!
I just want to thank everyone who is helping me through this… I’ve calmed down and stopped crying but… I am still distraught but it isn’t as bad as when I made the thread… Shaking is gone…
Thank you my Vulpera friend-o, and to everyone else posting here. I will be in this thread waiting for advice and constructive criticism.
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You can’t switch off the way that your individual issues make you react. That’s valid, and legitimate. But at the same time, other people can’t switch off how your reactions make them feel. Being pre-warned about what they’re getting into and what to expect helps, but at the end of the day, if you’re lashing out at people or just making them uncomfortable, they can no more control that reaction than you can control the way that your disorders make you act at times.
WoW is a social game, especially on a RP server. RP is like…layers on layers of social, it’s like jumping straight to doing heirloom crochet patterns when you’re already starting out with a condition that gives you uncontrollable twitching spasms in your hands. Even completely neurotypical people have problems keeping IC and OOC separate and not getting emotionally worked up sometimes. You may want to evaluate if a game that relies heavily on the skills that you’re lacking, through no fault of your own, is the best game for you to be playing.
A more anonymous, drop-in-drop-out game might be better if you’re looking for something with some contact with other people. Or, alternately, it may be better to work with a therapist to find activities in an environment already set up for people with challenges like yours IRL if you find yourself wanting more social contact with people.
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If I wear a sign around my neck that lets people know I might randomly punch them, should I be accepted? Does me having a good reason for not being able to control myself make it so people have to be ok with me hitting them?
Ok, maybe an extreme example, but you have to understand that nobody is entitled to being rude to others without repercussions.
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Have you tried talking to your therapist?
I have and I have an appointment soon. Thank you all for the responses.
I’m on psych meds, too, but I try not to be rude to people.
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Sometimes I can’t control it. I’ll continue to better myself and working to stay on peoples good side.
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