How would you like to be helped to get better?

A fair point, although what some people call “being a jerk”, others would call “telling the truth”.

I like pullups, so let’s used that as an example

  • Let’s say I maxed out at 17 pullups in two minutes, and someone else maxes out at 25 pullups.
  • If they turn to me and say, “I did more pullups than you”, they may be acting like a jerk, but that’s not elitist.
  • If they turn to me and say, “You suck at life, because I can do more pullups than you can”… then they are being elitist.

At least, as I would define the word.