They have already been trying to separate themselves from you. They are putting no effort in, when you do all the work.
These are not your friends. They are acquaintances of convenience - when things are convenient for them.
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They probably care about you but have developed their friendship that makes them enjoy their time exclusively with each other. This does not necessarily infer that they don’t enjoy time with you but rather their bond has gone places where you are not a part of it anymore. Why this is the case is impossible to know without asking them and idle speculation isn’t constructive.
That they at least keep up some level of concern would suggest it isn’t about you in a negative sense, but rather about them and whatever is binding them. I would suggest letting it go before trying to force or overthink it turns what remains of happy memories into bitterness. It’s not a satisfying outcome but at least you have control over your own reaction.
I wish you well.
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See what’s funny about that they argue and have removed each other as friends time to time
But go back, I get the vent, I tried to help, but ignore me once things settled
So one of the things I said was “don’t forget the people who care the most”
Well, actually, you don’t know “who care(s) the most.” You know your feelings and you know their response and nothing else. Let it go. For reasons you’ll probably never know, they have bonded on a day to day basis and this hasn’t happened with you.
Continuing to badger them is only going to push them to formally ignore you or get answers you probably really don’t need. They have made their decisions and it is in their actions. They still respond so they don’t hate you or probably don’t think you are a bad person; they just prefer themselves and whomever else they are playing with. Let it go while you still have happy memories.
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Losing friends sucks but it’s part of life. Friends come and go. Take the hint they are giving you and move on.
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There isn’t other people like them, I just wish I knew why this happened, I don’t want them to be on the list of people that why we stopped
One said “everything will fall in place once it makes sense” and I still don’t get why
It probably has little to do with you and a lot to do with them. Given that they still communicate with you I doubt you are at fault or have some failing that drove them away. There is an attraction between them they do not share with you. It is like a friend who gets married and has much less time to spend with us. The dynamics of their life has changed and our role in that new dynamic has diminished our place in their life. It doesn’t mean they value us less, but rather they value the other much more.
Let them be and accept it.
Perhaps in time the dynamic will change and you’ll be included in it again. Hopefully, by then, you’ll have some new dynamics of your own.
Grieve and move on.
Take control of your situation and do things that may result in new friends such as a new guild or pugging group activities. Help folks who ask for help in one of the chat channels is a great way to be added to someone’s friends list. Even more importantly, give relationships outside of WoW some time and attention.
I do wish you well.
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They’re bs’ing you, that is why.
Leave their guilds and remove them from your friend’s list.
Sounds like you’re the one that got let go tbh.