That’s the thing, I’m parsing better than they are. Like I said I’m top three while they are near the bottom.
I think there’s a number of issues with this OP.
On the one hand, I would say that men and women, transgender people, and all people are different, and as such should be treated for the unique individuals they are.
But in regards to the specific situation you describe, on whether or not it is ‘creepy’, well it depends…
I think the trap that anyone can fall into, is this kind of thing where you simply give to others, in order to get.
If people are doing that, I do think pausing briefly and taking a look at themselves and their motivations for doing such a thing…for instance, is it because they lack confidence in themselves, that they feel they have to treat every human interaction as a potential investment? This is a bit of a silly thing to do, as the other person actually has no idea whether you are just giving out of the goodness of your heart, or because you want something in return from them. That is most likely why you find the behavior ‘creepy’.
Wouldn’t it be nice though if we could live in a world where if Person A offered you gold/money, whatever, Person A could just say to Person B, “thank you for this offer, but just curious are you giving me this because you want to date me at some point?” and the other person A can say can cut the BS, get to the point, admit that this is their agenda, so Person B can then say yes either yes they want to date, or say outright to person B that you appreciate the gifts but don’t want to waste their time and be done with it.
See, the issue with the “creeper” in this case is that the situation might make you uncomfortable, but in reality if someone is giving and giving to others in the hope to get something from them, they are going to end up disappointed most likely as it might even cross the other person’s mind that the person giving them gifts and whatnot has any other agenda then just being nice. I mean when someone has given me something, I am often like YAY free stuff! and I regret to say…that it doesn’t even cross my mind whether they want something else from me or not.
Of course the truth is if people are only giving you stuff just because you’re a girl or whatever aka they are only giving because they want something from you, at the heart of it, that’s really their issue, not yours, you don’t have to own that.
Though I’d suggest to the people of ANY gender that if you are just giving in order to get, well although I am of the view that everyone in this world is using someone to some degree, I would strongly suggest to that person that they work on their own self-confidence, because at the heart of it, would a person with confidence in themselves feel they need to do others favors just to have their friendship and respect?
Just something to think about.
orange or gtfo
Do you have a photo of yourself on discord? not that you should have to, but you might get less advances without a photo. Imo the people who say they haven’t had a bad experience are just very lucky. This stuff happens all the time
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Totally disagree. I love to give.
I remember babysitting when I was little and my babysitter was like “you’re sweet but you don’t need to keep buying my children gifts.”
On the flip, I can see that too, manipulating someone with gifts.
I’m one of the most cynical people you will ever meet. but, I know in my heart some ppl truly give from their heart and do not want anything in return.
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But in the OP’s case, it sounds like people find out she’s a girl, so suddenly wanting to shower her with gifts and whatnot and help her out?
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That’s because those types of guys haven’t seen a real women since their mother. They’ve been locked in a dungeon their entire adult life stuck playing video games. When they finally come across one, they don’t know how to act. It’s like an infant trying to operate a calculator.
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The best drink is the drink of friendship. So we can just hang out however is comfortable for you my Void Elf pal. Although, how am I supposed to get in contact with you? Should I send a carrier gryphon? Will that fit through your window to drop off a letter?
It’s up to guilds and servers to police themselves.
I’ve in the past had females message me saying X harrased them…they send me SS as evidence and boom they’re kicked and I’ve sent messages to other guilds on the server about their behavior.
Just. WOW.
It’s almost like I didn’t say that at all. And I’m sorry, but exactly how arrogant are you going to be to assume that there is NOTHING that you, or the OP, is doing wrong?
Seriously? You, and the OP, are not perfect. None of us are. I’m completely against blaming a victim, but I’m also completely against in no way evaluating what the victim could have done differently. That’s just a patently stupid approach to a problem.
It’s like walking down a back alley in a bad part of town, getting mugged, and having the sheer stupidity to act indignant when someone asks you afterwards… Why in the world were you walking down a back alley in that part of town?
We also respond like this, because it’s a logical approach to a problem that they posed. If you’re unwilling to even LOOK at what you could be doing wrong, then you’re not looking for a solution for your problem. You’re just looking for attention.
And I can’t say it loud and clear enough… I in no way excuse poor behavior on the perpetrators the OP have described, just like I don’t excuse the muggers in my prior example. That doesn’t mean I just cover my eyes and ignore what the OP could have done.
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I think you should start a post about what the males experience in this game from the females. js.
I believe there is an old Greek story about that. Oedipus Rex or something like that? It’s called The Oedipus Complex. You can probably Google / Duckduckgo more on it.
Where did I say I was perfect? Tell me when ya find it mate.
It aint someone’s fault if someone is a turd to them. In a back alley, back door, nothin
3/10 trolling
Really? Are you saying that when someone is a jerk to you 100% of the time it is just their fault? You’re going to be that arrogant?
If you assume that it’s ALWAYS the other parties fault, that right there is you implying that you’re perfect.
Thanks for literally answering your question within your own post.
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Done.
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You need some green stuff in ye life…
breathe chill
Go find a beautiful woman and get back to me on the creeps that hit on her.
Let’s not get off topic. “After all, the common denominator to this situation is you.” Wut you said.
I am talking about a hot girl getting hit on and somehow, its her fault.
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Oh no you don’t… You don’t get to cherry pick my post…
That’s the full post. See how I qualified that statement? See how I’m saying if this is just happening again, and again, and again, and again?
Nice try dude. I covered my basis. Have a bad faith argument elsewhere.
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If they are cool, I don’t have issue with that. I do have issue with some that play those games just to get free stuff, or to play on some lonely dudes emotions etc. I’d say male or female, just be cool and respectful and we are good. If you are a dude and you’re feeling a chick man up and tell her how you feel Polorize her real quick. A woman is quick to let you know if she is feeling you or not. If she is not be a man about it and move on. Keep it simple you know?
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The gender distribution is a lot more even on RP servers, where I play. You can’t really be “the girl” on a RP server because we’re literally everywhere.
Now, it could be argued that the women on RP servers also have a tendency towards being…um. Utterly insane, and not in good ways, and I’d say, you know, that’s an argument that can be made. RP as a hobby draws people who are very…dramatic? It can get fairly Mean Girls sometimes. Other women on a RP server are too often competition, for attention, for being the prettiest most popular princess for our dress-up dolls, and for in-character relationships with male characters who aren’t dumb, absent or terrible (a scarce resource) and that goes, you know, about how you’d expect it would.
So I’d say overall, there’s benefits and drawbacks.
excuse me everyone, please check out the sister thread:
https://us.forums.blizzard.com/en/wow/t/male-players-experience-in-game/936452
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