We can’t not, no.
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Okay, I’m not being clear. Please give me a moment to adjust, as I just sat down and now am able to try to clear up what I’m trying to say.
It very much became a forum issue when people became involved. Bringing it up was bad, and a forum whipping came out of it. She tried to apologize, but she was brought down within a post or two, and she became flippant. It was then when it was revealed that she was being bullied by a guild in the Boralus community.
My point was that people were readily poking holes not just through her apology, but her character OOCly, and that’s a symptom of anti-social behavior to me.
Y’know when someone says, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” and it comes off as horribly backhanded? There are people out there that legitimately attempt to apologize that way, unaware that it is backhanded. That benefit of the doubt was not given to her. I and I’m sure you have been tone deaf before unintentionally.
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we talking about the public discord, bro?
I do agree that people should remove themselves from situations that are upsetting, but I don’t feel what you’re saying is always applicable. There have been responses to my posts that were from a deeply emotional place, but that shouldn’t be met with ridicule.
Pretty much this, thank you for this post.
It became a forum thing but that situation was not caused by the forums. I don’t know how else to explain that.
And that’s an ad-hominem insult and an assumption about a vast group of people, off of a forum post. Are you really the person to be throwing stones here?
What is your point here? That every complaint has to be addressed and pandered to, or you’d consider the forums toxic? There’s a difference between being welcoming and kind, and bending to the whims of every stranger who screams about cliques and conspiracies. I’m honestly not at all sure what you’re trying to say anymore.
I don’t think anyone’s advocating for a hard and fast rule. Context does matter and I feel like, most of the time, people are sensitive to that context. The reason we use “almost always” is because snarling about Forums Cabalism tends to follow such weird statements much more often than not.
I’m just saying you might want a better example because the apology thread or whatever was started by someone with a very long history of bad behavior. No one gave her the benefit of the doubt because we’ve heard it before.
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tbh most forum regulars seem to have problems succeeding in real life they either have severe problems with anxiety and cant hold careers or are legit spectrum and dissect a game that has no point dissecting
the one dedicated to SJW WRA forum terraforming i have found it and it will soon be taken care of
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tbh I think Balghur is also making our point for us so that’s also handy.
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No kidding.
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That was my reaction, compounded by “I don’t know any of these folks in-game.” But then I just went ahead and posted, anyway.
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The Violet crap nonsense was shameful but not for the “Forum” It reflected badly on the fact that the group in question demanded a public apology on the realm forums we were not the injured party we are the popcorn eaters.
I remember adamantly pointing out in that thread that the entire public forum apology was gross and abusive and the only response we ended up getting was what amounts to a dramatic cape flourish and a “This is how things are done i’m in the right!” and then silence.
The violet crap thread was not a forum issue it was a stupid rp group acting like a stupid rp group issue.
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And you lived! And I enjoy your input.
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Hey, this is a hostile post. If that isn’t the tone you were going for, please be aware that this was just frank conversation.
To be exact, I said it because the only way to be fully accurate was to go back and find a thread that I believe was locked or deleted. Because this was a casual conversation, I did not feel the need to go look for it because people seemed to remember it.
This was not necessary. I am being vague as to not be accusatory, and none of what I said was specific enough to be pointed at any individual or even a sub group like the “Forum Cabal.”
No. My point is that there have been times where people have been out-of-the-blue hostile to something they perceive as toxic. Plenty of times, people have been on-the-money with making examples of people with nasty opinions, but they have also been needlessly cruel, and that should be pointed out when it happens.
I don’t know where this came from, as it was quickly established that “Forum Cabal” claim comes from people feeling as if they are ganged up on, not because there is a clique ready to destroy discourse.
When I first started posting I just… came in like I always do. It’s just a forum. You can’t make friends without breaking a few eggs.
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This may be partially me being tired, but I’m having an oddly difficult time believing he’s real.
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He’s going to expose the public discord and bust this horrible cabal wide open.
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Okay, this is fair, and I believe you’re right. A lot of the examples I’ve seen in the past were not entire topics, but nasty responses where the person received the response simply stops posting. I’ll keep an eye out in the future for these examples.
Are you serious? You just called everyone in a specific thread anti-social, and generalized them all as jerks. And me asking if you’re the best judge of character is out of line.
I don’t follow your logic, man.
Link it. You keep making super general statements. Link a thread that exemplifies forum regulars being hostile for no reason to a perfectly innocent person, who did nothing wrong. I’m not normally the “prove it” guy, but you keep saying it. So prove it.
Okay, and for the third time… actually, let me explain this a different way, because you don’t seem to be understanding what I’m saying.
Someone in this thread made one post, saying that the entire server was toxic, and that the forum cabal ruins the forums for everyone.
I asked if they had a specific grievance, and sympathized that their experience was negative.
Then they didn’t post again.
I want you to tell me, EXACTLY what I did or did not do, that you think I shouldn’t have, or should have done.
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