While this sometimes happens it’s pretty rare. Speaking out alone is a great risk of more harassment. It’s easier to flee faction/server.
There is also more nuanced abuses that might not seem obvious.
I’ve had one of these types harassing me for half a decade. Every now and then she rears er ugly head and causes grief.
I was part of a non guild RP group, the leader swore it would be a space free of harassment. The abuser showed up, and while leader knew that she had a history he let her stay. I knew even if I had her on ignore she would try and take anything I might say IC out of context use it for harassment. So I had no choice but to leave and abandon all my friends. I did so without any outburst or dramatics because that wouldn’t help, it would make me look bad and let her play the victim.
One person, my RP partner, went with me. No one else cared or asked why I’d departed.
Leader continually tried to pull my RP partner back into the group where she’d come across my abuser, who had already tried to poison the well with the RP partner. Sometimes she’d go and I’d be left alone with no one to talk to for hours. Brain weasels ran wild, I worried that prolonged contact would eventually make RP partner believe the lies and rubbish.
I found myself in a catch 22, tell my best friend that I don’t like her playing near the abuser, or sit and watch my only friend slip away, powerless. I knew my RP partner was an adult capable of making her own decisions and try to tell her what she can and cannot do is abusive and makes me a bad friend unworthy of her friendship. At the same time, I was still uncomfortable. I thought myself a terrible and unworthy person. I fell into a severe depression and had repeated intrusive thoughts of self harm. I wound up spending hours sobbing to my therapist and psychiatrist about stupid online drama. I doubted my sanity.
My therapist identified it as gaslighting and triangulation. It wasn’t clear if leader was doing it for the abuser or not but my brain weasels were associating it with previous harassment. Basically leader was pulling my friend away intentionally or not, making me doubt my sanity and isolating me.
That didn’t solve the problem. I wrote a dear John letter to my RP partner. At the last minute I told her about the gaslighting and triangulation instead of breaking it off. By unfortunate chance, she is like me: An adult child of a narcissistic parent and she saw it too when I pointed it out. Most people would not have been so lucky. We’re still best friends today and I just got back from visiting her IRL earlier this week.
She sat down and ran both myself and Leafer’s group through the Advanced Bonewits Cult Danger Evaluation Frame. I scored 1 out of 100 due to my desire to avoid abuser and keep our RP separate. They scored much much higher, a low key cult of personality. We both went largely no contact with the group.
The idea of someone like that having server-wide acceptance as an authority is terrifying to me. No. No way.