How other people play “the game, the way they want,” has very little effect on how you want to play the game. It has not affected myself in raiding 9 hours per week every week for the years now. Go join a good guild and grind for progression and in time you will clear to your team’s highest ability. Stop worrying about what the Jones have and how they achieved it.
You will find you will enjoy the game much better when you stop crying about how other people play.