My point was that because Fear Ward isn’t necessary, you simply aren’t required to roll a Dwarf.
You’re drawing comparisons to all sorts of things that aren’t necessarily true. Someone making a decision about their race, even if they know it’s not optimal, because they prefer the aesthetics of that race isn’t the same as saying everything is someone else’s responsibility. It sounds good on paper, but people are more complicated than that. We make a series of choices, and sometimes we choose ourselves.
For example, my husband is rolling a priest. I suggested Dwarf, much like most would (it’s a solid race). My husband point blank said that if he Dwarf was the only viable priest, he’d rather play a different class. He can’t stand Dwarves. So… do I deny other players a Priest entirely, or do I let him know that other Priests are still viable?
If you believe that aesthetics aren’t that important, I’d point you in the direction of Transmog. People spend tens of thousands of gold, dozens of hours farming specific pieces, etc, just to have “the right look”.
The argument, from what I understood, was this:
“If you don’t want to play a Dwarf, there are other ways to deal with Fear, and there will always be Dwarves if your guild truly insists.”
The rebuttal:
“You can’t place the onus on others to do what you should be doing.”
My point, then, is that rolling a Dwarf isn’t necessary because Fear Ward isn’t necessary, which undermines the concept that someone rolling “Not A Dwarf” is trying to place the onus on someone else. It’s not just about the responsibility, it’s also about what you want to look at and think is cool.
Your argument that rolling not a dwarf is tantamount to believing that someone else will always do the leg work doesn’t hold up. It’s just not the same thing because the race you roll is more than just a utility spell in a handful of specific situations.
TLDR
Picking a race isn’t the same as willingness to put leg work into the game. It’s one of many choices that can impact your effectiveness, but that impact is ultimately relatively small over the long haul of the game.
Choosing a race based on aesthetics has no bearing on whether or not you’ll contribute to your fullest. A Night Elf priest isn’t inherently less likely to bring her own pots and flasks and food.