Bruh squidward is me rn
I dont see why there is a risk in telling someone they are lacking in their performance when it matters? They could think they are doing well or not understand the strategy of the team. I could play 100 games and say “hey you are getting diffed in XYZ” and 100 games saying “hey you are not doing great on XYZ switch” I could get banned for both.
You won’t get banned for just saying that.
Per-cep-tion. Not everyone is gonna be unaffected from someone calling them out. It’s risky cuz then u may be down a player entirely, even if they are not doing as well as the enemy, they are still likely trying, you could flip that.
It being true and it being explicitly said are different things.
Of course there is skill differences between the teams, but explicitly calling out “x diff” provides literally zero value and serves no purpose other than to insult the player that you felt did worse by blaming them for the loss.
Yeah, yeah, get thicker skin or whatever.
You can’t control other people. You just can’t. It’s not your choice if they fortify their mental so much that they’re impervious to criticism. So why would you ever be rude? If you want to win, create the most likely scenario that would cause a win.
I see now I severely misread your post. Sorry 
Because, for better or for worse, people are sensitive. They can respond to criticism emotionally. It might be dumb that that’s the case, but whether or not you agree with it, that’s the reality of the situation.
The strategy here is
“We could use xyz.”
“Maybe we should do/try xyz”
“Would you be ok with going xyz?”
“Their soldier is lit let’s xyz”
“I feel like xyz isn’t working right now, can you try xyz?”
Like, there are so many different ways to approach it that don’t inherently cause dissonance… The reality here is, you want to express your frustration in a way that suits you and your feelings, not the team’s wellbeing.
At the end of the day your team is your team, and unless they’re being a wretched little kyle monster energy drinking blazeit420 rage bro then it’s always better to try and remain cohesive… otherwise you’re pushing more towards resentment and less towards cooperation. And hey, to me, that’s just as bad as throwing.
The key thing to note is that the player often isn’t bad…
Even if you get “diffed” it could come down to having a bad game, lacking help, etc. People are soooo quick to judge.
So helping a player through positivity and kindness rather than provoking them CAN help them play better. Try giving advice in a non condescending way with some tact, a lot of the times people will genuinely appreciate it.
^ this, my favorite is “I don’t think xyz is the play right now, we could use blah blah instead, would u mind swapping” that instead of “bro you’re getting diffed can you please swap”
All you need to do is be a team leader, not a boss.
You don’t even have to be “kind” or “positive”, just stay grounded and focus on the solutions, instead of expressing your frustrations passively through poorly chosen words, right?
But if that’s too hard for OP to do, to just be anything but negative… well then he’s the only one who can change that.
Exactly
Thats abit difficult to do because if they keep feeding or making the same mistake you only do so much to minimize it.
But that does not ultimately mean you cannot speak about their performance.
Theres always that chance but the player not seeking cover, or not grouping up, or getting hard countered needs to be told.
I like this but again I see no real issue with “bro you’re getting diffed can you please swap”. The internet or public in general is not very kind.
That’s fair. Maybe I was inserting myself a bit too much, being to the point is definitely more practical if you are doing it properly.
I just like trying to comfort people who are having a bad game so they’re not too hard on themselves TT
Speaking on their performance, let alone how you do it is not the same as making suggestions for the team, or insinuating a new strategy.
Surely you can see the difference in those.
Nothing wrong with this, it is a game after all, no need to bring negativity into it, it’s meant to be fun.
I’ll do this too. I also usually show support when they make a kill or any kind of good play. Hype the team up.
Ofc I can, but I cant control how emotional someone is. People communicate differently, toxicity should always be reported and condemned. Expecting everyone to take a softer approach is just not happening let alone on the internet.
People change stance once they see how people react to their comments. Others dont care keep the same communication attitude.
Why not be different than those people then? Why conform to the norm of being indifferent toward others circumstances? The world is already very, cold, and the universe doesn’t care about us. Why treat other humans, in a negative way, at all? It’s a video game meant to be fun, even competitively, winning at all costs is like OWL, because money. End of the day, you do you, I just don’t understand why you would conduct yourself in that way. Also, meeting negativity with negativity is fine by me, just going out of your way and maybe bring someone down who’s just trying their best in a video game that’s meant to be fun, isn’t right imo.
But you can control yourself, right? To me that’s where it starts. Your approach matters. I hope you’re reading everything we’ve been saying, I can’t tell if you’ve really been considering our words.
But when being indifferent is relative to someones own perception you cant really win here. People can hate you for providing criticism regardless of how well spoken it is. Sure yes always providing feedback in the nicest way is the best method.
I can control myself as much as I can, how you react is up to you. We live in a world were people want to be offended by something. The following:
Could they be communicated better? Sure. Will they always be? No.