She didn’t “reduce people”, she’s just annoyed we can’t use the word “women” anymore to talk about the people who menstruate when in 99.9 percent of the time it’s correct.
It’s exactly as if someone said “humans can walk” and a handicapped person told “bUt I cAn’T wAlK aNd I’M HuMaN tOo” and decreed we all have to say “humans who have two functional legs can walk” just so that their feelings aren’t hurt.
This is just stupid, you don’t change language just based on exceptions.
As for the store she linked to iirc she showed a t-shirt saying “this witch doesn’t burn” (so nothing problematic) and the store she linked to happened to have another category that sold the merchandise you talk about.
All the examples you give are based on short tweets and none on her 3600 words long essay where she explains herself, which conforts me in the facts that you’re just repeating what you’ve heard when you call her transphobic and didn’t read it yourself.
As for the rest I agree with you, the shows you mention about are examples of representation done well, because they weren’t made with a checklist in mind.
I agree games could do it too (“Hades” is a good example I think). When I say it is forced upon them I’m talking about this specific thread where OP says “Developers, do what you do best and represent the trans community”. Some time ago I saw another saying “How come there isn’t a black woman in the game already”? There were also people complaining when Sigma was revealed that it was “another white male”. This is the pressure I’m talking about.
Sure tell the devs what you would like to see in the game, why not, but do not what they should do. It should be their choice for the result to be good.