Your husband must have talked to Orek after upgrading his Gems. Otherwise, the GRift shouldn’t have closed. I’m not sure if it was affected by your not being able to resurrect, leaving the game and rejoining though.
You are correct. And it has been reported many times by many players. Because it’s a rare occurrence, Blizzard’s QA Team may not be able to reproduce it. And that makes it difficult to diagnose and fix.
It’s a known bug and number 6 in the Player List of Known Issues, stickied at the top of this Bug Report Forum.
No, it didn’t. I was just trying to help you understand what was happening, how to avoid it in the future as long as you’re playing with someone else and that it is known to Blizzard. (You are not alone. 
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